"Sometimes I'm afraid that working here would change my personality."
"Change how?"
"Here, I'm taught to be cautious of people's intention. It's like, whenever I met new people, I'm expected to scrutinize their needs and motivation, as well as to be wary of what they could do that might harm me."
"And that's bad?"
"I don't know. It's certainly useful here, but I know that I can't think that way when I become a psychologist."
"How should you think of people, then?"
"In psychology, there's something called 'unconditional positive regard' - that we have to accept people (or clients) as they are, regardless of what they did. Studying psychology has encouraged me to put myself in other people's shoes. So it's really hard for me to hate anyone."
"Really? How come?"
"We learned to analyze people's behaviors to understand why they did what they did. Chances are, there's a reason. There are bad people, for sure, but I believe that most humans are innately good."
"Even if they hurt you?"
"Even if they did hurt me. I often thought of the plausible explanations that might drive their actions. What they did could be wrong and hurtful, but most of the times I did something wrong, too."
"You're just being gullible."
"Yeah? I don't know, I just feel that most of the time, it's really hard to hate someone who did me wrong, as I'm not perfect either."
"But that could make you the victim. That could actually get you hurt."
"Yeah, I know."
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